Tuesday, January 12, 2021

The Best Paige In The Book Review: Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb

Hey everyone! I am so excited to finally post this review! Bar prep had me losing my mind all summer (and into fall), and I'm sure you can guess where my mental health went after getting my bar exam results back, so I was SUPER excited to read Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb! This book focuses on a therapist's' relationships with her clients as well as her own relationship with her therapist. As a psychology nerd and mental health advocate, I was already intrigued by this book when I found out about it. Upon further research, I read so many rave reviews! I am here to tell you that Maybe You Should Talk to Someone lives up to the hype and BEYOND!

Lori Gottlieb opens the door to what happens in therapy from the perspectives of both the therapist and the client. Reading this book when I was going through an incredibly challenging time was comforting as well as thought-provoking. 

This book is written from Gottlieb's perspective. She talks about 4 of her clients and their personal struggles as well as how those struggles are reflected in Gottlieb's own life. Her clients include a narcissistic Hollywood producer, a young woman battling cancer, a suicidal elderly woman who believes her life has no meaning, and a 20-something who is still trying to get her life together. Gottlieb discusses various psychological concepts that she sees playing out in her clients' lives as well as how those concepts and client stories relate to her own life. Gottlieb's own quirky therapist helps her work through these issues and find contentment.

Readers will definitely find a way to relate to the characters in this book. We've all has painful experiences in our life, and learning why we embraced and reacted to those experiences can be such an informative process. Gottlieb structures her book by having one chapter about her client and an explanation of the psychology behind the client's actions, then the next chapter about how she faced a similar situation in her own life, and finally how it played out in her therapist's office. This gives insight into how various issues look to both the therapist and the client. Having two different situations demonstrating a psychological concept also makes the reader stop and think how they may have experienced the same thing or acted similarly. Despite only knowing the characters through their one-hour therapy sessions with Gottlieb, the reader feels connected to them. I laughed, cried, and examined myself through the entire book. It was so relatable and incredibly informative!

While mental health is becoming less taboo, there is still stigma surrounding seeking out mental health resources. I love that this book normalizes the process of seeking out help from a therapist, shows how "normal people" get this kind of help, and demonstrates how beneficial it can be. It also talks about psychology topics and how they play a part in our lives and how we perceive and react to the world. I studied psychology in undergrad, and I love learning how the mind works and how people can react differently to life experiences. At a point in my life when I was going through some tumultuous times, this book was such a great read! There were so many times that I actually had to put this book down for a moment in order to process my thoughts. I heard so many great reviews of this book, but I was initially worried it wouldn't live up to the hype like Where The Crawdads Sing. I am so happy that this book ended up being even better than everyone said it was! I actually had a hard time picking my favorite quotes because there was so much content in this book that I adored! I definitely recommend reading it!

Rating: ★★★★★

Favorite Quotes:

  • "During my training, a supervisor once told me, “There’s something likable in everyone,” and to my great surprise, I found that she was right. It’s impossible to get to know people deeply and not come to like them."
  • " 'Your feelings don’t have to mesh with what you think they should be,' he explained. 'They’ll be there regardless, so you might as well welcome them because they hold important clues.' "
  • "We tend to think that the future happens later, but we’re creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists. But if we spend the present trying to fix the past or control the future, we remain stuck in place, in perpetual regret."
  • "Follow your envy—it shows you what you want."
  • "There’s no hierarchy of pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest."
  • "By diminishing my problems, I was judging myself and everyone else whose problems I had placed lower down on the hierarchy of pain. You can’t get through your pain by diminishing it, he reminded me. You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it. You can’t change what you’re denying or minimizing. And, of course, often what seem like trivial worries are manifestations of deeper ones."
Of the 12 books I read in 2020, this book was hands-down my absolute favorite! Maybe You Should Talk to Someone made me literally laugh out loud, cry actual tears, and pause and think about my life and choices. There are not strong enough words to encourage you to go out and read this book! Let me know what you think!

Make today the best page yet!
Paige

(All images and text reprinted constitute Fair Use. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone was published in 2019 by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt)

4 comments:

  1. Wow this sounds like a brilliant read! I haven't come across it before either. Lovely review, and thanks for sharing the quotes :)

    Anika | chaptersofmay.com

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  2. This sounds like a truly excellent book. I don't typically reach for this style of story, but I feel as though I would relate to it thoroughly, considering my past (and present) with mental health. I appreciate your review so much!

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    1. I was totally the same way! This wasn't my typical read, and I thought that it couldn't possibly live up to the hype. But I'm SO glad I read it and 100% recommend it to everyone!

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